Why I Changed My Name and What It Taught Me About Who I Am

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If you take a look at my bio here on the Buffer blog, my Twitter account or my website, you’ll see that my name is Belle Beth Cooper. That’s been my name for about eight months. Prior to that it was Corina Mackay. Corina Mary Mackay, in fact, since about ten days after I was born.

Changing your name so dramatically isn’t something many of us do, so I thought it would be fun to tell the story of why I changed it, what the process was like and what I learned from it.

Why I changed my name

Changing my name was a complicated process that took lots of things into account. It’s difficult to really point to one reason that made me do it. Here are some of the contributing factors, though.

My old name was hard to spell and say

Corina isn’t too unusual a name, but my spelling can be. It’s often spelled with two r’s or two n’s, or with an a, as in Carina. My original surname, Mackay, also has it’s problems. My dad told me once when I was a kid that he thought it was a Scottish name that had been brought to Australia generations ago and the pronunciation had been mangled, so we actually said our own name wrong. Who knows if that’s the case.

Anyway, the way we pronounced it was ‘mack-ay’, even though it’s spelled more like ‘mack-eye.’ So quite often it would be pronounced wrong by others, or it would be spelled McKay, or MacKay. The fact that Australia actually has a city called Mackay that’s pronounced ‘mack-eye’ didn’t help.

Needless to say, this got pretty tiring as a kid. When all you’re trying to do is fit in at school and seem cool, the last thing you want is to have to wrestle with every teacher over how to say or spell your name.

I wanted to choose it

Choosing a unique name that nobody else in the world has is pretty hard unless you’re willing to go for a word that isn’t even considered a name (yet). Or a crazy spelling, which we’ve already discussed was not something I enjoyed dealing with.

Having chosen your own name, however, is pretty unique, regardless of what that name is. There are lots of people who’ve change their names, I’m sure, but I’ve never met one. It feels pretty cool to have done something not many others have.

On that note, I’m also fiercely independent and I love the idea of being in control of something so often seen as ‘out of our hands’. I really like knowing that I’ve done something many people would assume is not even an option.

I wasn’t very tied to my name

As a teenager, I really outgrew my family ties in a sense. I don’t place a lot of importance on people because they’re my family, but rather just because of who they are and whether I get along with them. For instance, I don’t see many of my family members who still live in my home state, because we just don’t have much in common. I don’t make a point of traveling back there on a regular basis simply because they’re my family.

Other family members who live closer to me happen to have more in common with me as well, so I spend more time with them. The fact that they are family doesn’t hold as much importance for me as it does for many people.

Mostly, this is just because of how I grew up, and the roles that family did (or didn’t) play in my life as I developed. What this means is that the fact that my name holds some kind of ties to my family doesn’t affect me a whole lot. A little bit, yes, but not a lot.

In my case, the ties are that my dad chose my first name, my mum gave me her middle name, and my surname comes from my dad’s family. I was pretty lucky in that most of the family members who know I’ve changed my name didn’t get upset, even if they didn’t understand why I did it. I was also really lucky that I had total support from some people, like my sister and my friends.

My dad did feel a bit taken aback by it. Although he knew I was using my new name already, talking to him about the process of changing it legally was pretty tough. That conversation was a huge lesson for me in empathy and communication. My dad suggested I was changing my name out of anger towards my parents, almost in revenge or as a way to hurt them. That’s a pretty hard thing to hear from someone you love and respect, and it wasn’t easy to explain why I was changing my name and to convince him it was no reflection on my relationship with him or my mum at all.

Although for me the legal process was more about convenience (having my preferred name match my legal name) and an exciting new chapter in my life, it brought up some tough discussion about my feelings towards my parents now, and how I feel about my childhood. I definitely didn’t expect that, and I think it was a surprising benefit that my dad and I could get some deep issues out in the open as a result of discussing my name change.

New name, new me

Choosing a new name is a funny process. Essentially, I could choose anything I wanted to, so long as it was deemed appropriate by the Registry of Births, Deaths and Marriages (it’s not quite as easy as sitcoms make out).

By the time I was filling out the paperwork to get my name changed legally, I was still deciding between two name variations: Belle Beth Cooper and Belle Verity Adams. Each name has a little bit of significance, though the overall choice came down to how I thought all three sounded and looked together, since I knew I’d have to get used to that being my name.

Here are the three parts I chose, and why:

Belle: this was a nickname my sister gave me when I was about four years old, after a character in my favorite movie. My sister was really the only one who used it until about three years ago.

I started using the name Belle well before I started the process of changing it legally. One of the good things about working in theatre is that you can use pretty much any name you like. For a couple of years I was working on lots of theatre projects, and I used the name Belle each time. I experimented with a few different name combinations as I tried to choose something that would go with Belle, so I have programs stashed away from various shows, all with different names on them.

Beth: I was an exchange student in the U.S.A in 2004 and both my exchange mom and sister have this middle name. While I was looking for names to go with Belle, one of them suggested this and I loved it.

Of course, this was a point of contention in the discussion with my dad that I mentioned above, as well, and I can see why. Giving up the middle name I had, which matched my mum’s, to take one from another family could certainly be taken the wrong way, regardless of how I meant it.

Cooper: A distant relative on my mum’s side has this last name. I don’t even know who it is—perhaps a great-aunt. Having heard it before, it popped into my heard early-on as a possibility. In the end, the real pull for this name was just that it’s easy to spell and say, and I thought it went well with Belle.

Making it official

The actual process of changing my legal name wasn’t much fun or super interesting, but I’ll break it down briefly so you can see what goes into it. Of course, this will differ by state and country, but it should give you a basic idea of the process.

As I mentioned before, my name had to be accepted as appropriate. I also had to specify a reason for changing it in more detail than simply “personal” or “professional reasons.” Since I’d been using the name for a couple of years in the theatre industry already, my reason was that it was confusing for my legal name to not match the name I was using professionally. It got through, so I guess that’s an acceptable reason!

I posted this tweet on my visit to the local government office that handles name changes. I didn’t quite have everything I needed that day, so I was a bit pre-emptive in pointing out to my co-founder Josh that I was about to have a new name!

To get it done, I had to fill out a form and get a whole stack of papers witnessed to prove who I was. I paid a fee and sent off my paperwork and my original birth certificate. Just a few weeks later I received a Change of Name Certificate in the mail. This means I get to keep my original birth certificate and I just have another one that proves I changed my birth name to the one I have now.

Below are photos I shared on Twitter on the day I sent my forms away—on the left is my application, on the right is the letter addressed to the government office that handles name changes.

application copy Addressing the envelope to send away for a new name!

Some surprising lessons that came from changing my name

It’s funny how many things I noticed after doing this, that I had never expected. Here are some of the more fascinating things I’ve learned or noticed since changing my name.

Changing my first name

I read an article once about actors choosing stage names that said you should never, ever change your first name. The reason for this is that as an adult, you’ve spent so long having that name ingrained into your subconscious that you’ll always respond to it even if it’s not officially your name anymore. I guess I must have read that after I’d changed mine…

People are usually surprised that I changed my whole name, and it’s nothing like my former name. I guess this is because it’s such an unusual thing to do. Even when I say I’ve changed my name, people often assume it’s a surname change due to marriage.

Keeping my signature

One of the first things I did was head into the bank and get my name updated in my file. I had to sign some paperwork while I was there, and I’d forgotten to pick a new signature so when they put me on the spot, I just used my old one.

By this time it’s just a squiggle anyway, so it doesn’t matter too much, but it seems odd every time I sign something to be essentially writing my old name.

Trouble with three names

I like the idea of using all three of my names, i.e. Belle Beth Cooper. This is probably another exercise in being original, I suppose. One thing I didn’t foresee would be an issue is that a lot of people call me Beth by mistake. I’m yet to work out why this happens, and it’s definitely one of the more puzzling aspects of my new name.

I can only assume it comes from the confusion of using three names, which has proved to be a problem elsewhere as well. When we recently tried to set up Google Authorship for my posts on the Buffer blog, we realised that having three names brings up a bug in getting Google to recognize my posts.

What a name means

Changing my name has made me think a lot more about what our names mean to us: how and why we choose them for our children, how we think about them and use them throughout our lives, how we associate them with our personalities. In fact, I found out recently that our names affect our lives much more than we might think.

Something I’ve noticed in particular is that it’s not uncommon for people (even strangers) to see my name change as offensive (especially towards my family) or unnecessary. I think the ideas of “giving up” my chosen name, that link to my family and our ancestory and any tradition that comes with the name (for instance, my middle name matched my mum’s) really seem upsetting to some people.

I’ve found it quite difficult to explain to people who think this way that those links don’t mean as much to me, and I don’t feel that I’m being offensive to my family or anyone else.

Another one in this vein is when people say they could never change their names. Again, it’s hard to explain how I feel about it to people who see this as something they just couldn’t do. For me, changing my name has made me feel quite good in terms of bucking the status quo and questioning things that we’ve taken for granted for generations (i.e. you’re stuck with the name your parents give you).

Who I am

Here’s a really odd thing that I’ve noticed since changing my name:

When I’m having a bad day and I look in the mirror, the first thing that pops into my head is my birth name. I don’t know why, and I think this is a pretty interesting phenomena—I’d love to find out if other people experience this as well. It could be related to how I think about myself relevant to my new name though: i.e. I’m the new, improved me with the new, improved name, and the past, less-improved me had the old name.

I also think I subconsciously relate my old name to not being in control and/or having things decided for me. Because I’m so fiercely independent, I think I’ve probably attached negative connotations to my old name because I was stuck with it—constantly correcting people on how to spell or say it, and I had no choice in the matter.

Saying it right

Interestingly, I’m less concerned about people spelling or saying my name wrong now. I like to correct them because I like my name and want to give it its due, but I don’t take it so personally when people say it wrong, (or call me Beth—though that one does puzzle me a lot). On the other hand, I think I’m more aware of other people’s names, and try harder to get them right.

I do take it personally now when people compliment my name, since I chose it. Another lesson I learned in empathy: I notice some people seem offended or frustrated when I compliment their names, because they didn’t choose them. Someone even said that to me once when I said his name was cool: “Well I didn’t choose it.” This reminds me that my case is unique and many others don’t feel excited and proud of their name because they chose one they like. In this case, his frustrated tone reminded me we often feel like our names are the kind of thing we can’t change.

Moving on

I feel like my new name represents me better as who I am now. Having said that, I’m fully open to the idea that I might want to change it again someday. This whole process has made me see my name as a more transient aspect of my life, rather than a definitive description of who I am as a person.

  • http://thejakejordan.com/ baldjake

    Really interesting journey Belle. Thanks for sharing some insight into why you moved to a new name and sort of a new life. What do you think was the biggest unexpected pro and con to the whole process was?

    • Belle

      Thanks, glad you enjoyed reading it! I guess the most unexpected ‘con’ (if there is one) would be when people call me Beth, because correcting people on how to use my name was something I was trying to get away from! :) The most unexpected ‘pro’ is probably how many people are open to the process and interested in the story – I’m continually surprised by this! :)

  • Rohan Ayyar

    My family knew an old man called Veerashoora Varaprasada Swaminatha Somasundara Jadavallabha Aiyangar. Not kidding one bit. And you complain about spelling and pronunciation? :)

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  • Andrew Steele

    Hey Belle. You may find people call you Beth on accident so often because in a few other cultures, French and Italian in particular, “Belle” literally just means “Woman” or “Girl”, and is sometimes just used as a title, similar to “Lady” or “Ms.” or the like.

    Another likely possibility is due to the nature of the pronunciation. Belle is naturally pronounced ‘down’, in terms of vocal inflection; Beth on the other hand is often pronounced ‘up’. This means in crowded situations or when speaking quickly, “Belle Beth Cooper” could very easily sound more like “L. BETH COOper”, so some could take your first name as an initial instead of “Belle”.

    Just my theories. ;)

    Really fascinating article. I had considered changing my name too, when I was 20ish. I started by going by a nickname for a couple years, similarly to your journey. My main impetus was separating myself from my parents, whom I was struggling with at the time, but I also liked the idea of being my own person.

    Of course, being a bit of a joker, I chose “Cole Steele” instead of my given “Andrew Steele” or my family and friends imposed “Andy”. In the end, I didn’t go through with it, because my Dad threatened to cut me off from the family if I did. I was more than a little dependent on his financial help at the time, to help get me through college. I decided for the sake of keeping some ties to the family that I’d just ask everyone to just call me Andrew instead of Andy, to signify getting a little older and more mature. To be honest though, I still feel weird calling myself Andrew, even when others talk to me. I feel like I’m living in someone else’s name.

    One last sidenote. A few years after I went with “just Andrew”, I met and worked with a man named “Cole Steele”. He was a bit of a pretentious jerk. ;)

    • Belle

      Hi Andrew,

      A couple of good theories there. I definitely wondered if Belle being an adjective in French made people skip over it when reading my name. I guess I’ll never know!

      Interesting that you tried switching for a while and went back. Thanks for sharing your story!

      • Chris

        I’ve changed my surname, but I really liked my first name, so I still have that.

        This doesn’t apply to you I assume, but in Wales, part of the UK, a lot of people use their second name rather than their first name. Not sure why, but its pretty much a tradition.

    • http://flippa.com/blog Ophelie Lechat

      Oh yeah, as a native French speaker I totally skipped over “Belle” at first: it feels like I’m calling her “Beautiful Belle Cooper”, which, uh, is a bit weird!

      • Belle

        I’m not surprised – that makes sense! Someone else suggested that because Beth is such a common name it’s easier to hang on to that part, even for native English speakers. That would also make sense, I think.

  • Scotland Spain Grey

    Thank you so much for sharing. I am currently on the fence about the very same thing. I use one name professionally, and my birth name legally. Do I just file a DBA or go ahead and legally change it? That’s where I am. It’s interesting that you mentioned having a bad day and seeing yourself as Corina. This is precisely why I changed my name professionally. Besides a long, multi syllabic last name, I have a lot of negative self esteem attached to my birth name, while my professional name gives me a huge confidence boost as an artist. Why? Who knows. Likely because I feel I can reinvent my own persona as someone else. Scotland is the cool, breezy artist, while Amy is the anxious, mistake-riddled underachiever. I am neither one or the other exclusively, but it feels that way mentally.

    Anyway, thank you, thank you. It’s nice to know the are others out there who feel the same way I have.

    • Belle

      Thanks for reading, Scotland. I’m pleasantly surprised that so many people have been or are in a similar situation to me! That’s definitely a nice feeling :)

  • JenniMaley

    Interesting post! When I was younger I used to dream about changing my name because there is a bit of an unhappy story behind why I ended up with it. But I think I’ve reached the point where I couldn’t imagine my name as anything else. It’s cool to hear how it might have gone if I want down that road though! And Belle Beth is such a lovely name!

    • Belle

      Hi Jenni,

      Thanks for reading! It’s definitely something I thought about a lot as a kid, too, but I’m not sure I ever realized I would actually change it some day!

      And thanks, I like it :)

  • http://sagegrayson.com/ Sage Grayson

    Great post! I changed my entire name about 10 years ago because I was breaking ties with an abusive family and didn’t want to be associated with them anymore. Congrats on your new name! :)

    • Belle

      Thanks Sage! I’m surprised to find so many other people have gone through a similar process to me – it’s great to know that!

    • jane starr

      Well done belle I love your new names , has to change mine due to abusive family like sage
      More power to us i say x

      • Jeannine Nichols

        Good for you too. I am trying to do the same. How did you explain it to employers and friends so that they didn’t freak out, think you were crazy, or get too much 411 about the backstory?

        • jane starr

          Hi jeannine , id just gotten divorced from a abusive man and most people just assummed id taken my maiden name but since I also come from a family with an abusive father I didn’t ever want his name again so I just explained, people were nice about it , didnt ask questions really , kind of shocked if anything that id had such an abusive background But I would have explained more if theyd wanted as I think its important to let people know youve taken back some control in your life , very best wishes and Good luck to you x

        • William Burke

          You cannot. Because you are actually crazy.

    • Jeannine Nichols

      Really? Me too!! How did you explain it to employers and friends you were keeping?

    • creepyTexan

      I can def see it being done for this reason-kudos to you.

    • Avy

      Was that the reason you used when applying for a name change? If so did you have to show evidence? I really want to change my name for the same reason but I don’t know whether this will be an acceptable reason. I’m from Australia so it might be different here as well but any advice you can give would be great :)

  • Rob kennedy

    My name is Robert John Kennedy. Try lugging that handle around with you, and try doing an internet search for yourself with that name? So I shortened it to Rob, that made it better, but, it’s still tough out there for people with difficult or unoriginal names.

    But here’s a sneaky way of getting a new name, while retaining your old one; try spelling your name backwards, works for me. Trebor Ydennek, sound quite Baltic, I think.

    But you do realise Beth, that your initials are now – BBC.

    • Belle

      haha spelling it backwards is certainly original!

      And yes, I definitely considered my initials before going ahead with it. The initials BBC were just another vote in favor of the name I chose :)

      Belle.

  • Tash

    Hi Belle,

    Part of the reason you probably get called your middle name is because a lot of older citizens use their middle name as their first name. We have an employee who we have always known as Brian, however, on our latest form, he put his first name down as Desmond with Brian as his middle name. Often they share the same first name with their parents and use their middle name as a way to differentiate between them.

  • http://terakristen.com/ Tera Kristen

    It was very interesting to read your thoughts on your name. I think everyone has had to address the issue of their name, and what it means to them, at some point.

    When I started using social media I realized my rare Gaelic last name (Dargavel) is so difficult to spell and say that I didn’t want to use it online. I chose my middle name since I believed the combination (Tera Kristen) was uniquely mine – whereas I’ve met some other Teras before.

    My first name, Tera, was a result of the first two letters of my Dad’s name (Terry) and the last two letters of my Mom’s name (Sandra). I always loved that story and I fully embraced my first name. As for my middle name, it was borrowed from a past friend of my mother’s and I always thought it was pretty. I feel like using my middle name as my unique identifier means that I won’t have to update my online accounts when I get married and change my last name.

    My email signature always says “Tera Kristen” and I’m also sometimes called Kristen. Perhaps two names confuses people. I am definitely going to (casually) ask the person why they chose that name the next time it happens – I’m so curious now!

    • Belle

      It’s so interested that you have a similar situation, Tera! I’m definitely puzzled by that one, and I think next time I change my name I might go with just one name instead of three – like Cher or Sting :)

      • http://terakristen.com/ Tera Kristen

        Haha – don’t forget about the option of using a symbol! It’s not just for ego-centric singers anymore!

  • Missy Homemaker

    I think this is a very interesting read. I grew up with three hard to spell names. My first name was spelled ‘wrong’ by my dad on my birth certificate so it’s a variation of the original. My middle name had an ‘e’ added to the end which is a normal spelling, but not widely used. My last name is a Scottish name that isn’t pronounced like it’s spelled at all.
    My first grade teacher made me cry by demanding that I was spelling my name wrong.
    I complained to my parents so much growing up, that one day my dad finally said, “When you’re old enough, you can change it to anything you want!”
    My name spelling doesn’t bother me any more, but then again, I use a fictitious name on my blog. Everyone knows how to spell Missy lol.

    • Belle

      Thanks for sharing your story, Missy! I definitely think it’s interesting to explore the different dynamics of how people use your name in-person vs. online. When you can only read a name and assume how to say it, you come across different issues than when you hear a name said out loud but you don’t know how to spell it.

  • http://healthup.me/ Lisa Oberndorfer

    What a huge decision. I’ve hated my name since I was little (my full first name is Elisabeth) and I’m hating it even more now that I live in the US and no one is getting it right. I did consider changing my surname, but I just can’t do it. As much as I dislike it, it’s part of my identity. And since I’m a journalist and have published stuff since 2004, I would pretty much ruin my career – and have to start a new one.

    • Belle

      It’s definitely a big consideration when your name is tied to your career. Luckily mine was young enough that changing my name was worth giving up the small reputation I’d started to build based on it. Unfortunately it’s not that easy for everyone – thanks for sharing your thoughts, Lisa!

    • Ann

      People in the US can’t get Elizabeth right? I would have never guessed. :|

      • http://healthup.me/ Lisa Oberndorfer

        Well, they constantly spell it with a z instead of an s :)

  • Karin Bellantoni

    Belle…you are going to love this.

    Your name is belived by many to “vibrate” at a certain rate producing the melody that is you. When your name (which all have a numerological value) changes…vibration changes= you change.

    You can read more about this in a book called Love Numbers and you can get a free report from this group:
    http://www.kabalarians.com

    I have referred several friends and they loved the analysis of the name variations. Hope you enjoy!

    • Belle

      Cool, thanks for the suggestion Karin!

  • Delima Shanti

    I too have a difficult to spell name, and because my culture doesn’t even understand the concept of family names, the whole idea of continuing the family name is a non-issue for me.

    But my issue with changing names more than once is that if you want to build a brand around your identity, it probably pays to stick to one thing for most of your career as it’s hard enough to get traction with one brand as it is.

    • Belle

      Definitely a good point – I didn’t talk about that in the post but it was definitely a consideration for me. I’d spent around 1.5 – 2 years building a name and reputation online which I mostly had to give up when I changed my name. For me it was worth it, but there was definitely a lot of running around to be done in order to update my details all over the internet!

  • Pam Holland

    Belle Beth Cooper! I voted for that name and I love it! I feel so honored to have had a part in this and to have had you in my life. You can change your name if you choose, but it won’t change who you are. I’ll ALWAYS love you! Excellent article and I thoroughly enjoyed reading it.

    • Belle

      Thanks Aunt Pam! I’m glad you enjoyed it :) Definitely true – my name is part of my lifestyle, rather than who I am. I like looking at it that way!

      • Lady

        “My name is part of my lifestyle, rather than who I am.” – perfectly said!

  • http://flippa.com/blog Ophelie Lechat

    Funny, I was just thinking about your name change yesterday. I have two difficult-to-spell-in-English names (and my middle name, Sandrine, is no walk in the park either), so I have adopted the fake name Sarah for situations where it really doesn’t matter (takeaway coffee, haircut appointments).

    I’m guilty of deflecting to “oh, my parents chose it, I didn’t!” when complimented on my name. Names are just one of those things you can’t really take credit for — unless, of course, you make the courageous decision to go your own way and pick a new one. Well done, Belle!

    • Belle

      Thanks Ophelie! Choosing a name for your coffee order is a good one – that’s one of the places I tested Belle on the outside world for the first time!

    • jaybird

      I love your name, Ophelie Lechat. Very cool.

  • Julian Perez Kerr

    I changed my name almost 2 years ago. Like you, I never really liked my birth name and from childhood I wanted it changed. Furthermore, I don’t honor people by their titles either. “Family” “Boss” signifies little more than the rest of society to me. I choose my current name to signify those most important in helping me develop my character for the good and bad. This was a refreshing article. Thank you.

    • Belle

      So glad you liked it, Julian! Thanks for sharing your thoughts :)

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  • James McKey

    This makes our Twitter discussion about your listed name there so much more interesting in hindsight. Did you have a Twitter account under your old name and have to abandon it?

    I had a romance with the name Sean as a kid and thought I might change it one day. I also never liked my middle name “Murray”. Totally OK with my last name of “McKey” though. I just help people by saying it’s spelled like Mickey Mouse without the ‘i’. Being from Orlando, that sticks with most people and usually gets a cooperative chuckle.

    Also, my wife chose to keep her last name and it bothered me not at all. In fact, I suggested to her that maybe we should give our kids the option of choosing their own names when they turn 12, including new last names. That would be an interesting experiment, eh?

    • Belle

      I did, James! I think if you go to twitter.com/corinamackay you’ll find it there. I left behind about 1200 followers as well, and my body of work on the web up until that point, for the most part.

      Definitely an interesting one with the kids – I was just discussing this with someone recently. Could be fun to see how they feel about their names if they see them as more transient and changeable!

  • http://www.thomas-weller.de Thomas Weller

    Wow, definitely one of the most inspiring posts I’ve ever came across. Thank you for sharing this! And congrats to your bold and radical step. (Funny enough: I stumbled upon it while scanning my business-related blog feeds this morning.)

    Like everyone else, I didn’t have a saying when it came to choosing my name (I couldn’t even speak by that time…). I also didn’t choose the people who gave it to me. I don’t really like my name (mostly because it is associated with a life that I left behind), and I’m not so sure about the people these days. But still it never came to my mind that simply choosing another one could be an option. This possibility just didn’t exist in my world.

    Besides that, I like the idea that a person chooses a name that reflects this person itself, rather than simply being given a name that you didn’t choose – and maybe don’t like. (The software development guy in me now moans: “But you get all sorts of problems if you turn an identifier into a simple attribute!”. And he is right in a practical sense. Somehow…)

    Be that as it may, you brought an idea into my thoughts that wasn’t there before. And this is something that happens very seldom…

    – Thomas

    • Belle

      Hi Thomas,

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts here! It’s definitely not uncommon to not even consider changing your name legally. I’m very happy to share that it’s a possibility for those that are interested :)

  • SterlingEdSrv

    Hi Belle,
    Not quite the same, but I switched from “Liz” to “Eli” starting college and it definitely feels like a different person whose memories I have.
    My parents chose “Elizabeth” in large part because of the many nicknames possibilities and I appreciate that!
    I was also happy to retire my maiden name (Hammer) when I got married, but I am still considering legally changing my middle too!

  • Bob Kim

    In the Daoist tradition, when you undertake a new phase in life, your teacher gives you a new name. In the Jewish tradition, God did it. In the arts, you do it (mark twain).

    Common thread?

    Changing your name is a time and tradition honoring way of marking an epock making metamorphosis. Welcome, Beth!

    • http://www.mytinysecrets.com/ Adina Rivers

      I loved this. thanks Bob.

  • Richard

    I went to China and changed my mind about all of this.

    One thing I will point out to you is that you are independently incapable of seeing yourself from the outside. What you believe others are seeing when they comment disapprovingly on your name change might not be the actual case.

    The thing is, independence can be likened to selfishness, a quality disfavoured by humans even in infancy. I changed my name but long pretended I had not chosen it in order to preserve the higher-priority trait of humility that is favoured by our very genes.

    You will also find that there are very few people beyond blood parents who will ever tell you what they are truly thinking. You are their extension beyond mortality, and nobody else will have as much of a gamble in the kind of person you eventuate to be. Because you are literately typing on the Internet during the 21st century, I’d presume that your parents, their parents and every ancestor hither back has done a fairly good job of advancing your social class.

    At the very minimal, even as an orphan put up for adoption you owe your biological parents a deep reverence for your enjoyment of the ability to take breath, to fall in love, and to do all that it is you do. In Confucian philosophy, gratitude to one’s creators is paramount above all other virtue.

    Individuality is a trait, it is indeed a trait. Valuable to the individual…but then we do find there are very many sad, lonely, unpretty old individuals.

    • Ann

      I guess that’s your opinion. None of us ever asked to be born.

  • Richard

    The further thing I will mention is that you will find yourself explaining in future situations, to partners, perhaps children – that the thing they have to understand about your new name is you. You you you you you and only you. There are approximately 2 dozen distinct personality types, each with benefits and flaws. But the type you are more likely to be associated with is the more liberal, eccentric, self-prioritising type.

    Trust me when I say you will suffer an equal penance in hurt by association with these people.

  • Bree

    I had a really rough upbringing and terrible teen years and so when I started a fresh new life I decided I wanted a new name too. I did the same thing. Moved to a new town with my new husband and changed my first and middle name legally as well as taking his last name. It’s actually hard to hear my former name after hearing it used like a curse word so many times it just cuts through me like a knife! It does give me a lot of anxiety when I have to tell people I did it because yeah, not such a common thing and people think your weird for doing it. Well good for you, I love your new name! I also used that website someone else said kabalarians, it was really cool.

    • http://www.celticanglicanshop.com/ celticanglican

      I totally understand, Bree, re: a name sounding like a curse word. It would be nice if people had more open minds about why people go through name changes or just what they prefer to be called. People in general seem to make too many assumptions…

  • Aria

    I’ll have to agree with everyone, and say this article is very refreshing. I rememeber wanting to change my name since I was a child as well.

  • Horatio

    I completely changed my name too! My current forename and surname is Horatio and Caine, respectively – Horatio Caine is a character played by David Caruso in CSI: Miami. I got rid of my middle name entirely and completely changed my first and last names! Out of interest, do your family members refer to you by your old or new name? My parents refuse to call me Horatio and there’s not much I can do about it since I’m still a 17 year old student living at home. Once I’m older and financially independent, I’ll be able to issue them an ultimatum. My siblings don’t call me Horatio, but they don’t call me by my old name either – my eldest sister calls me ‘babe’ or ‘boo’ and my other sister and I call each other ‘rat’. I’m okay with those nicknames as they have no relation to my former name!

    • Belle

      Good question, Horatio! My parents and some older friends refuse to use my new name, but I’m generally okay with that. They refuse to change for their own sakes, not mine, so that’s their choice. And some of them are slowly coming around!

      • Horatio

        Does it not annoy you? I hate it! My parents are the only two people who refer to me by my old name!

  • Katharine Love

    hi belle; i came across your blog when i google name change..here is my story..i grew up in an abusive home and had an unusual name that was spelled different from the norm making it even more unappealing. so as an adult when my friend told me she was changing her name, i thought..wow! can you do that? and my next thought was ..me too!.. so i changed it to cassandra shakti hart..i was starting grad school and thought that it was the perfect time to begin anew. but..my professor started calling me cassie which i hated even more than my original name, so i legally changed it again to katharine angelina love. now..years later..i am once again unhappy with my name. when i look inward i feel as if i do not have a core identity, hence i am unable to “name” myself since i..don’t exist. i am not sure if this is an existential problem or something related to my family of origin, but i am not sure now how to proceed..i have looked at name now for 10 years or so..i feel like a coke addict but using names instead..fyi..i have never tried hard drugs nor do i have a substance abuse problem but this feels unsolvable..any insights will help..thanks..katharine(for now)

    • Belle

      Thanks for sharing your story, Katharine. It’s interesting that you’ve changed your name more than once.. I can definitely see that being a possibility for myself in the future, as well.

      Identity is a really tricky thing, and I think it’s inextricably linked to our names for most of us, but ultimately it’s a really personal journey to work out what that means for you.

  • Steve

    Great blog.

    I changed my name recently. Only a couple months ago. It was also a full change. I’ve also found some static from it from many fronts. I am very surprised that in America, where people name themselves things like “Jesus’ Hairy Balls” and other such nonsense, that a Germanic name is so frowned upon. I don’t give my name online, but I changed it to something that sounds like “Heinrich Friedrich Adelbreight Gutenburg”.

    The names I used all came from old relatives in my family, and all had significant meaning to me. America still has people flooding in from other countries, whose names, language, culture, and religions must be accepted. So why not Germanic culture?(Note, I do not say “German”)

    The name I chose suits me. It feels like me. I was born with very BORING, common Anglo given names. Something like “Joseph Michael”. No offense to people with those names, or ones like them. Just totally not me. My new names suit this person that has lived all over the world, been on tons of adventures, speaks 25 languages, seen places few men ever have, read manuscripts few men have laid eyes on, and payed taxes to many foreign governments :)

    I admit at first glance my name looks like some mix between a Nazi war hero and some mystical Teutonic knight. But that’s part of the point. You can be proudly Germanic and not be a Nazi. It seems many people do not realize that. All my kids have similar names. And their mom is black, and from Africa. So there you go. Try calling them Nazis! lol They also have their African names as well.

    I never told my family at all. “I’m not close to my family” means I have not talked to them in years. Adopting a new family name to spite them was also part of the point. It’s refreshing that my kids will have a NEW family to be brought up in, totally different than the one I had. A name is a powerful thing. Changing mine was the catalyst that gave me the independence I needed. I look in the mirror, and I AM a new person. The old name, as you say, conjures up negative images from the past. For me, the new name evokes and accentuates all the good in me.

    Your blog was like therapy. Every now and then I still have doubts. I am only 2 months old after all. Sometimes I think it a bit childish. I did use this name for gaming for a while. And I’m an old gamer, with kids!(but not a total geek. I am lucky if I have time to game 3 days a week anymore). But it feels good to read your blog and your experiences. I can relate to a lot of things. It makes me feel good to hear others go through the same thing. Thank you again for sharing!

    • Ann

      German does not equal nazi in any way shape or form. If anyone judges you or thinks that way, they’re living in some bizarro world. Enjoy your fresh new name!

      • Steve

        Thank you Ann. Well, Germans are stereotyped as being analytical, prone to research and an exactitude, obedience to authority, laws, and rules, being anal, punctual, logical, no sense of humor, etc.

        Mere stereotypes. Though many, including myself are like that. And that logical, seemingly emotionless, robot-like disposition is often how they portray Nazis in film. Just look at the internet meme about “Grammar Nazi”. Somehow using correct English=being a Nazi. I guess Americans and other cultures are more relaxed about rules like grammar.

        The point is, some stereotypes about Nazis and Germans are true. Though it is not Germans acting like Nazis. It is that Nazis were Germans! (Sadly, when you combine Nationalism with perfect organization, you get genocide).

        Anyhow, I ramble. Thank you for your kind words and support! Another thing to note for the readers. I live in the USA now. Here, in some jurisdictions(certain States), you can mail your court order to the State Vital Records office and they will issue you a NEW Birth Certificate with your new name, send orders to the Local Civil Registrar to update your Birth Certificate, put your original one on microfilm and put it in a sealed envelope that only a Supreme Judge can order opened, and destroy the original! Wow. I really AM me now. Who I was born, is dead! That’s an amazing feeling.

        I am also going through another process. Adult Adoption. Some jurisdictions, like mine, allow people to adopt adults. Soon my birth parents will also be eliminated forever from my Birth Certificate.

        Just some info for anyone who lives in these jurisdictions, or is willing to move to them, even temporarily, to get it done.

        Cheers.

        • Shaed Greenwood

          The idea of prescriptive grammar being “correct grammar” ignores how living languages work. Languages constantly evolve and change. Nonstandard language use is the means by which this happens.

          Policing other people’s grammar is fascist and shows that you don’t understand how language functions.

  • Zoe

    I really appreciate this post. I am getting ready to change my name in the next couple of months, and I was wondering how and why other people made the decision to change their whole names. I find it an empowering thing. I really like what Bob Kim said about name changing as metamorphosis. It very much is for me.

  • Miss L

    Belle! I have changed my name legally – both the first and the middle. I changed it to Lily Julia from Bethanie Mary. I felt I had similar reasoning, and that my birth name did not reflect how I felt about myself. It was a lovely name, but not quite me. My mother understood, knowing that I disliked it as a child, and I also had a difficult childhood as I was often criticised for being too quite or shy, and bullied for being pretty. Anyhow, I felt my new name is more delicate but has a certain calming strength behind it. Yes, when I am having a bad day I often think about this birth-name, and still refer to it as “my name,” whenever I see it or hear somewhere. I don’t often tell people that i’ve changed it though, and was contemplating putting it in as a third name, right at the end of Lily Julia, or use Mary at the end. Just to have a piece of the old with the new, but I am quite happy with using Lily. It’s me now. I have grown into it, and no longer look like a Bethanie to people. I also work in dance, so I use another name, which is Belle, and the reason is I subconsciously respond to short names starting with “B” because being called Beth, people would confuse it with Bec or Belle.

  • Antara-Cheri

    I changed my name 22 years ago yesterday, Jan. 1st. Today, I woke up and I am really considering changing my name back. I changed my name for spiritual reasons. I felt that I could help change the world and that I really had something to give. My name change represented that. Today, I just accept the world and maybe accept myself. I want to change back.

    It was a very interesting phenomena about all the ideas that went with “Cheri,” my old name. “Antara,” was new and had no preconceived ideas attached to it. It was my angel/star name. Now, I feel like I always liked my old name and I don’t know how my mother was so accepting and understanding when I changed it? It is very complicated now in all the entanglements of where my name is out there. I am in school once again and changing it there will be strange with “medical-type” students. Antara has become a name associated with what I never did or never accomplished nor lived up to. It means female warrior of the human spirit. Maybe it was too much to live up to? I just want to do what I can with what I’ve got and be less demanding of myself and others.

    I like Belle. Belle is beautiful for you.

    • Lady

      This makes me very sad. You don’t seem at peace with this situation, just trying to accept it. It sounds like your spark went out or away. Maybe you were worn down in your efforts. I don’t know, but it seems tragic. It would be different if it sounded like you got what you wanted out of your name change and how you spent that part of your life, and now you’re just coming back because your work with Antara is done. But since it doesn’t sound like that’s the case, then I’d say your work there isn’t done and you will continue to hurt until you find that peaceful resolution. I hope you’re able to connect with others who can help you through these feelings. Maybe you just need to re-frame what it means to “change the world”. Plenty of people we revere today didn’t make their mark til later in life – and in other cases, after death.

      P.S. I’m talking to myself as I write this to you. I relate to your situation and have to constantly remind myself to be patient and persist. :)

    • Aria

      I changed my name 16 years ago and I also want to change it back. I am married now, with children, and my husband is confused and upset about the possibility. My thoughts are very similar to yours.

  • Sascha

    Absolutely loved this post! I have wanted to change my name for a few years now, as what I have at the moment came from people that I intensely dislike and have nothing to do with. The name itself also has given me infinite amounts of grief (usually misspelled, and people usually think I’m a man). My trouble is this – how do you come up with what to change it to? I like how you had Belle as a nickname from childhood, but the nicest nickname I was ever given was either sushi or sausage. Lovely. When you’ve got nothing to work with, how do you go about creating a full new name for yourself? And where do you start on surnames?!

  • Kate

    This is interesting Thanks. I’ve always loved and adored my name so when I had to change it to my husband last name it was actually very upsetting to me. I would have done the whole hyphenate thing but the names sound ridiculous together I hate it and whenever I mention it to someone they can’t keep a straight face so no. :)

  • Notmyrealname

    This is a great article. I’ve considered changing my name for a few years. My main concern is that my parents were are proud of my unique name, so they will no doubt be hurt on some level. No one says or spells any part of my name right though and I tend to flinch when people say my name, right or wrong. Strangers get annoyed or don’t care about getting it right because it’s so difficult to spell/say. It tends to wear on your self worth. I think I need a fresh start and this article is was step in finding the guts to do it.

    • Adriana

      I found a way around that. Make your current name your middle name and then you can pick whatever you want as your first name. When people ask you just say “oh that’s my middle name but I don’t use it anymore”. and I agree with the strangers not caring about pronouncing it! The same thing happens to me.

  • LBD

    My husband and I have recently started talking about changing both our names, including our last names. Neither of us are close to my family or his. We are not having children. I wonder how hard that would be.

  • Beth

    Hi Belle! Awesome article. I legally changed my name too, senior year of college. Growing up I was one of several Sarah Elizabeths in almost every class. Having been reduced to “Sarah C” multiple times, I finally had enough and changed it to Sarahbeth. Only I didn’t realize how difficult it would be to have two first names as one name, so within a year of changing it, I started going by Beth exclusively. It suits me better, I think: Little Women is one of my favorite books, and Beth strikes me as a book-nerdy name anyway, which definitely describes me :) Now I only use Sarahbeth for publishing.

  • Kathryn Wolfe

    Hi Belle, I just came across your article and I love it! It’s informative and inspirational. I am in the process of doing a full legal name change and I am wondering if you ever had any issues with coworkers/employers handling your name change? I almost feel like to fully start over maybe I should just move to another City, but we just cant do that and I don’t know why but I have all this anxiety built up over how my work will handle this. I know this is what I want to do, and the people I care about are 100% supportive but I cant stop worrying about what they will say or how they will react. Any suggestions or things you have heard on how to stop worrying about what they think?

  • Mia Chavez

    I changed my name as well and am now going to change my last name. I had only changed my first name before. After really thinking about it- I would not want to carry the last name of my absentee father and am instead choosing a last name that is short, unique and geared more towards my children’s ancestry instead of my own. I’m excited about it and can’t wait! Most peoe don’t understand but t the end it’s about me and what makes me happy. The only thing I have found frustrating is when I come across the people whom do not want to call me by my new name bc they’re used to my old one. Honestly I see that as disrespectful to me. How do you handle situations such as those?

    • Jezreal Blue Raven

      Hello yes I understand completely where you’re coming from, what I say unto the ones who disrespect me exceptions for my mum and dad by using my old birth name; I would and have on many occasions simply and totally ignored those people without a response as though I never heard them. Or I would simply ask them whom is this person?? And that I dont know the person whos name that they called me by. Eventually they will learn that they are to remain as complete strangers until they speak my name which is different from what I use here or online. I’ll conclude that my whole world changed for the better with my new name.
      My name has my whole destiny written inside it and I dont have to try and live up to the meaning of my name. Everything unfolds with a great sense of joy, peace, purpose, reason, destiny, meaning and fulfilment. Thank you Belle Beth Cooper for this blog

  • Nazneen

    I’m in my 40′s & I just completed the process of changing only my first name. I found out yesterday judge granted my request. My only living parent now is my mom. When I told her she became VERY angry. I changed my name due to the fact it has created lots of racial arguments through the years. My father was black & white and my mother is mexican. My sister was given a normal, american name. I was given a hispanic birth name. We were not raised to speak spanish, nor with hispanic cultural ways. Through the years people would hear my name & automatically assume I spoke spanish. When I replied no people were shocked. Ignorance. Mainly I found hispanic people were actually angered that my mother had not taught us spanish. Why? I was born in the U.S. I got tired of this so I chose a 1st name I felt reflected me. I actually get mistaken for East Indian or Middle Eastern. From this I chose my name. I am VERY comfortable with my decision despite friends & family questioning my decision after so many years. THANK YOU for your post. I’m glad I read it. I am not alone.

  • Jesus

    once I thought change my name Jesus, by other that sound it more important, maybe like an actor’s name. But that was before eighteen, after that, gradually, I was taking in serious my name.

  • Pia

    Hi Belle! I’ve read this blog for inspiration a couple times. I’m waiting to go forth and change my first name. Just a bit chicken to tell the hub :)) I know it’s a bit late in life but I’ve been considering this for a couple years and am already using the first name in various circles. I’ve chosen a name that suits who I really am and wish to move on from the name that seems to hold me back and has some negativity attached. Thank you for sharing your experience. Many Blessings to you.

  • Eli

    wow..this helped me a lot. I want to change my full name, but I wasn’t sure what my family would say. and I was thinking is it wrong that I want to change my name? But reading this made realize that there’s nothing wrong. Either way i’m the outcast of my family, so yeah. thanks for the blog. :D

  • Tammy

    Wonderfully inspiring blog post, thank you so much. I am considering changing my name… scratch that, after reading this I have decided on changing my name… I will be changing my first and second name but not my surname as I have my husband’s surname and I like it. My name is Tamzen Demelza, I hate it and whilst when I think about it I feel it probably represents me (it’s abnormal, bizarre, often misunderstood) it doesn’t represent the person I want to be. I feel that changing my name will represent my rebirth as a person, and taking ownership of myself back from my abusers.

  • Gaia Mix

    It’s called a “stage name”, a lot of theatre people have one. But of course not every Australian (or where you live) would go by a stage name.

  • no idea

    Great article. I’m desperately trying to figure out what to change mine
    to, 5 months after finally deciding to call it a day with my abusive
    family. My parents preferred a son, not a daughter, my mum said she wanted to name me Alice but my dad decided it
    was ‘too girly’ ??? so AliSON was decided probably to make up for the
    son they didn’t have. It sounds so harsh with my surname and people are
    always pronouncing it ‘Alahson’ which grates on me, not to mention the
    variety of spelling versions I have to deal with. My dad called me Al
    like as if I was a middle-aged man. I was ridiculed by them for being
    artistic and sensitive, too soft.. they were always trying to get me to
    toughen up. I want a name that allows me to be myself and to feel
    feminine!! My mum’s original thought of Alice or maybe ‘Aliss’ suits my
    personality better, and would have been preferable since it sounds
    softer, but I don’t know if I really like it.

    I have always
    liked the name Rachel, that was what I called my doll as a child even
    though I knew no-one with that name, once I asked myself what my real
    name is and my innerself seemed to whisper ‘Ray-chel’…but then again I may just be schizophrenic.

  • Emilie

    I really enjoyed reading this article and the journey you went through in order to choose a new name!

  • Ashley Joshua

    Brilliantly written Belle, very positive. My mother was going to call me Django till my father stepped in at the last minute.. thinking I would take a fair bit of stick growing up, plumping for a far safer and non-gender specific ‘Ashley’. To be honest the school I went to was pretty rough, so he might have had a point, even so.. think I could of ridden the wave of abuse to the proverbial shore with my trunks intact.

    I’m 29 now and have made my mind up to go with that original maternal instinct, I think my 30′s will be better for it, was v helpful to hear about your thoughts and experiences can tell you have a lot of heart so that name is pretty apt.

  • Maybe

    I’ve been toying with changing my last name for years–I need some separation from my family. I love them, but I don’t feel tied to them enough to want to carry on their name. I’ve considered options that include my name or part of it within it out of respect, but my friends whom I’ve trusted with this knowledge seem to just say they “sound really made up.” But I don’t want to take someone else’s name, I just don’t want this one. I thought asking my friends advice would make me more sure of myself, not more conflicted. I’m worried about how my other friends/family would take the change.

  • Wendy Adelissa Mason

    when I was young I was always messing around with names, I bought name dictionaries and played around with what I thought my kids would be named. for 5 years one name stuck like glue and wouldn’t go away. To me it was the perfect name. Then I got cancer and couldn’t have kids. I thought about using some of my names on pets but it hit me one day, this name is MY name. I use it online and It is a part of me. When a couple friends heard about this they tried to use it but it felt weird. It is almost like it is my secret, the best me that is inside of the mess that is the me with my birth name, if that makes sense. One day I will make it my middle name so anyone that meets me in the future will know me by the new name (Adelissa)

    • Kate Finch

      Your comment really touched me. One of the beautiful names I picked out for a child I will never have biologically (as I recently found out I can no longer have children either though for different reasons) I’ve been contemplating the idea of using the name for myself as I have wanted to change my name for a very long time now. I am sorry for your loss–but congratulations on being a cancer survivor! I think your new name is a beautiful tribute to the child you didn’t get to have and a way of keeping that idea/energy alive in yourself. Perhaps if you adopt someday if (that is something that you desire) you can still use your new name, as your future child’s name too. The name on this post is one of my online aliases. All the best. Kate

  • Sage Donaldson

    Hello!
    My name is Sage, and I’m only 16, but I’ve been contemplating a name change when I’m older for about a year now. I already go by my middle name, Jennifer, as much as possible for a couple reasons. 1) there is no nickname for ‘Sage” that i’ve heard besides “sagie” which I hate, but i do love Jennifer or the shortened “Jenny”. 2) Sage is becoming a very popular name, which I dislike quite a bit, as I take much pride in individuality. I hate hearing my name in restaurants all the time and turning around to see some dumb little kid running to their parent(not the kids fault, i know, but until about two years ago I had never heard of another person names Sage. 3) I think it’s just a bit boring and does not represent me as a person. I’m not wise and I’m certainly not a furry plant. It’s a beautiful name but it just doesn’t fit. I like my middle and last name okay, but the last name is very… blunt? I’d probably keep the surname if I were to change my name, but might look into alternate spellings, which there are many of for the name Donaldson. I love the name and the Scottish ancestry tied to it, but the current spelling just reminds me of Donald Duck.
    I can’t even imagine wading through the millions of names in the world to find one that fits me though! How did you ever manage it? And was it massively expencive to change your name?
    Thank you, sorry for writing so much, and congrats on your new name! I enjoyed reading your story quite a bit!

  • tub

    Thank you so much Beth, I loved reading. Fantastic and a bit scary becasue I’m totally with you on it but I’ve yet to do it! nice one…comment below from bob Kim also lovely

  • Drew Chandler

    If someone asks about your past, what do you say? Are you open about the former name? The reasons why, I changed my name originally started with feelings of anger at my father. I changed my name to disassociate myself and start a new life apart from the harm he had caused our family. Since then my anger has subsided and talking about my past is like a minefield. I like to speak the truth and have a hard time lying. During a conversation I try to stay away from the subject of names, but once in a while it comes up and I’m compelled to tell the truth. I have lied about it from time to time and feel extremely guilty afterwards. Feelings of guilt are worse then telling the truth. I lied about it today and still thinking about it. The reasons of my embarrassment is justified when listeners show signs of disgust in their body language and may express is more directly, when I tell the truth. I feel that when I lie that I’m not true to myself. Can you help me try to see reason to continue with telling the truth, rather than covering up my past. What is done is done. I am who I am and can’t turn back. Creating new relationships is harder with a name change, because it is rare and is seen as a transgression of family heritage by a lot of people. Most people are not open to the idea. I don’t regret the name change and would do it again, but I only wish it would be easier to deal with when confronted with the topic. BBC or anyone else, let me know what you think or feel about this topic.

  • jaybird

    I am thinking of simply adding my mother’s maiden name to the end of my name. I already have her first name as my middle name. She passed away a few years ago and her maiden name (the best side of my family) is getting lost through the passage of time. I think it’s time to bring it back. :) So I’m not changing so much as augmenting. lol

  • http://www.celticanglicanshop.com/ celticanglican

    Nicely written. I go by the nickname that I took in my teens because I’d gotten to a point where my first name irritates me due to personal reasons. It seems like getting people to understand that you want to be called whichever because you don’t want to be called whatever anymore can be the hardest part.

  • MasalaChai

    I legally changed my name at 41. I was born in the 1970′s and my parents named something I deem outlandish, no not Rainbow or Clover but something that stuck out and was difficult to pronounce which became tiring.

    I’ve always been a quiet girl, not someone who likes to draw attention to themselves, shy and a dreamer. I just knew I had to do something about my name which was a constant source of aggravation to me. I decided to rename myself to something traditional and unassuming. Something that didn’t draw attention to myself everywhere I went. I’m happy with my new name and even feel better received by other people with it. People are friendlier and I don’t feel like I’m being treated like some kind of oddity as I did with my old name.

    In most states in the US it can make be quite challenging to change your name, you have to jump through a bunch of hoops and costly legal procedures compared to the UK or maybe elsewhere. This is one thing I don’t understand when your social stays the same. Unfortunately due to this, is the reason why it took me as long as it did to change my name.

    I have to say, If you hate your name change it and who cares what people think, it’s your life and you’re the one who has to live every day of your life with a name that you feel is unsuitable for you, they don’t.

    • T

      You can change your name on your social security documents. http://www.ssa.gov/online/ss-5.pdf — you just need your name change documents. I did it recently. For those wondering, you can do it in this order — name change order from court (which includes new birth certificate) — SS card change (I had to go to the place in person to attest that i wasn’t changing it to get out of legal obligations or anything fraudulent) — new ID (needed to present name change document, birth certificate, and SS card)

  • Desiree

    I changed my name too. I regret that I didnt changed it earlier in my life. I always disliked my birthname. Ann-Christine. The name was too long and didnt fit me. Now after 40 years I changed it to Desirée. I was never ever comfortable with the other name.

  • littlepixie76

    I can’t believe someone can write so much on changing their name. Talk about going on & on

    • lea

      well the subject is in fact about namechange…. why do you read it when it obviously doesnt interest you ????????

  • http://ronnieroswell.tumblr.com Ronnie Roswell

    Wow I am so glad I found your blog post. I’m 25 years old and since I was 19 I have wanted to change mine. Legally my name is Veronica and while it’s nice at the same time I’ve always felt disassociated from it. People know me as Ronnie and like you said in your piece- it doesn’t make sense for the legal name not to match up with what you’re called. I barely brought it up to my mom last night and she was a bit hurt by it because it is the name she and my dad gave me. Though I’m an adult how is it that I can explain it to them? I know nothing I say will make them understand but this is my current dilema. I have the forms I need to sign. Hoping to get it done after graduation.

  • Marian Gregory

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  • http://ronnieroswell.tumblr.com Ronnie Roswell

    I have a question. How do you explain this sort of thing to family/your parents? I’m 25 and have contemplated a name change since I was 19 so it’s not something I’ve thought of lightly and I never brought it up to them because I wanted to be sure myself. Now that I am I’m having a difficult time with my parents. My mom blamed herself and said we should have gone to church more. I guess with growing up in a good family I don’t know how to make them understand why I want to change it even though I know my reasons and I’ve written it down and said it in my head over a hundred times. Any advice would be great. Thanks.

    • Marvin

      Not sure if it helps but I changed my middle and family names and feel better already. My young teenage kids are not happy with the change but they could do whatever they want when they grow up. Just one thing. Make sure that your new name is what you really want cause you don’t want to change it again.

      • http://ronnieroswell.tumblr.com Ronnie Roswell

        Thanks. It’s difficult because I am 25 years old and my parents are alive and they’re truly the best but I’m walking that fine line. My dad has all ready told me that he’s not willing to change the important things such as the names on their wills, car insurance, etc. My mom is upset as it is over the fact that I put the name Ronnie on my grad. announcements instead of Veronica. Veronica just doesn’t suit my personality and who I am. I feel like two different people- to which I can’t admit to because then my dad and mom would think I’m crazy.

    • Lisa

      You can change your first name to your middle name and then choose the name you want. That way you aren’t losing the name they gave, you’re just adding another one. Also if they still call you by your current name, you can tell people it’s your middle name and you only your family uses it. I can relate my mother didn’t want me to change my name since it was a name she really liked. She still calls me my old name but she was ok with the middle name compromise.

      • Lisa

        Sorry about the big pic, I didn’t realize it would be this big.

  • James Mack

    My name is Lorna hope, and I base in USA…My life is back!!! After 2 years of Broken marriage, my husband left me with two kids . I felt like my life was about to end i almost committed suicide, i was emotionally down for a very long time. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr okunad, which i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet,I came across allot of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. i also come across one particular testimony,it was about a woman called Sonia,she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 2 days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped Dr okunade-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give it a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to him. In just 48hours, my husband came back to me. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before Dr okunad, is really a gifted man and i will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man… If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve all your problems for you. Try High okunadelovespellcaster@gmail.com anytime, he might be the answer to your problems. Here’s his contact: okunadelovespellcaster@gmail.com

  • James Mack

    My Name is Mr James smith .I will love to share my testimony to all the people in the forum cos i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me 4 weeks to our weeding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her Facebook and she changed her Facebook status from married to Single…when i went to her place of work she told her boss she never want to see me..i lost my job as a result of this cos i cant get myself anymore,my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life…I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business have been developing some years back..I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back and how i lost my job…he told me he gonna help me…i don’t believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him..he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to US the following day and i called him when i got home and he said he’s busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 2 days that is Thursday…My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on Thursday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew what she’s doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my wife called and he said i haven’t seen anything yet… he said i will also get my job back in 2 days time..and when its Sunday,they called me at my place of work that i should resume working on Monday and they gonna compensate me for the time limit have spent at home without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with kids and i have my job back too,This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help.you can mail him on this e-mail; airemokhaspellcaster@gmail.com i cant give out his number cos he told me he don’t want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said his email is okay and he’ will replied to any emails asap..hope he helped u out too..good luck his email;airemokhaspellcaster@gmail.com

  • creepyTexan

    I accept 100% your right to change your name. Saying that though I do think it interesting to say ” Again, it’s hard to explain how I feel about it to people who see this as something they just couldn’t do.” because if you think about it those are the people you will always have to explain too. I also do see it as a disregarding of your history and a bit of a FU to your family. But like I said you have a right to do that. My father changed/shortened our last name and I wish I had the old one back.

  • james

    Name is Chelly Harry am from USA,I am here to share this wonderful testimony for what this great man Dr aninato has done for me i have been in a broken marriage for more than 3 years i tried everything possible to bring back my family together but it was very difficult but i thank Dr aninato for coming to change my story and bringing happiness into my home i came in contact with Dr aninato when i had a conversation between 2 people how Dr aninato helped them in solving there relationship problem and they said wonderful things about Dr aninato which then i could not resist it then i walked up to them and told them i am having same problem so they smiled and said Dr aninato would sort it all which then she gave me Dr aninato contact i called him and explained everything to him he just told me not to worry and asked me for some details which i sent to him and he told me that within 48 hours my lover would call me and apologies to me then i kept my hope high believe me before the 48 hours completed was a call from Dick Harry was shocked and when i showed my kids the call coming in they all where happy my lover came back home and went on his knees to beg my kids and i it so wonderful that i could smile and by tomorrow we are having a family reunion party am so happy all thanks to Dr aninato a if you have any kind of relationship problem contact Dr aninato on jehotemple@hotmail.com

  • S. Crespo

    I greatly enjoyed reading your blog post. I’m another one of those who decided, at the age of 26, to legally change my name, and it was interesting to hear another story of someone who changed theirs simply for personal reasons.

    I hated my last name, Pompeo, ever since I was a child. I thought it sounded horrible, and so did my own mother, but out of respect to her husband, she didn’t keep her maiden name. I was ridiculed in school many times because of it as a child, and ever since I was a little boy, I told people I would change my name. They used to make a joke out of it, saying, “oh, really? you mean when you’re 18 you’ll go to court?” (My child’s mind was like, “tennis court? badminton court?” I had no clue, naturally.) When I became old enough, however, I did research the legal process, and found that in my home state of New York, it’s not that difficult, so long as you’re willing to sweat out a little red tape.

    I chose the last name Crespo. I met somebody what that name three years ago, and I absolutely fell in love with it. It was so perfect. I felt like it fit me more than any other name ever would. I asked a good friend of mine, a lifelong friend, to be brutally honest about what he thought of the idea. He said that he, personally, actually liked Pompeo better, and felt that I shouldn’t run to the courthouse all on a sudden whim. He told me to give it 6 months, and if then I still felt the same way, by all means go ahead and do it. Sure enough, 6 months later, I only wanted to be a Crespo even more.

    I am Catholic, and when I received Confirmation at the age of 12, my mother insisted I choose “Anthony” as my Confirmation name, in honor of my grandfather who died while she was pregnant with me. My mother loved and respected her father so much that she chose Anthony as my middle name as well. I didn’t like having the “double Anthony”, and not by choice, so I chose to change my middle name to Simon. I loved it as a first name, and it reminds me of my favorite singer and entertainer of all-time, Paul Simon. So my confirmation name is still Anthony, in my grandfather’s honor; that’s something that can’t be changed.

    I liked my first name, Steven, after my father. However, my mother didn’t want me to be a “junior”, so she spelled my name differently from my father’s, Stephen. I decided to change my own name to my father’s spelling, so that he wouldn’t be able to say I was throwing him under the bus by ditching his family name. I thought keeping my first name (which my parents chose, and in my father’s spelling), and my Confirmation name (which my mother chose), and getting rid of my last name (which my parents didn’t choose) would keep them from taking it personal and seeing it as an act of rebellion. Really, the names they picked stayed with me!

    And so I went from Steven Anthony Pompeo to Stephen Simon Crespo.

  • Emiliano Babarah

    Oh my God, I’m so glad to tell everyone the real thing that happen to me…My name is EMILIANO BABARAH. If i refuse to share this testimony it means i am selfish to my self and to people i love so much whom might have similar problems, March 16th about something 7:23pm after taken our dinner my husband got crazy started calling a lady name Melisa I love you, i was so mad and started crying like a baby…then my husband left home for the idiot called Melisa, and never return back home then i believed when he uthen nderstand his self he will surly come back to apology, but instead he left me So i complained to my friend she told me she was having such problems in her marriage until she was introduce to DR ORIOMON who specializes in bringing back broken homes and broken marriages DR ORIOMON cast a spell for me in May 4th surprisingly my husband came home May 6th apologizing that i should forgive him that it will never happen again, i was so glad and gave the thanks to DR ORIOMON who save my marriage, if you are having similar problem you can contact him and His email address is (oriomonspiritualtemple@yahoo.com) you can still save your marriage if u really love your husband.

    Thanks EMILIANO BABARAH_USA

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  • Olivia H.

    Hello, I am from the Philippines and I’d like to change my name wholly. It is, however, not allowed in our country unless it is a clerical error like an obvious misspell. If I legally change my name to where you did it, would it matter if I was a foreigner?

  • Melissa Lopez Melissa Lopez

    My Name is melissa lopez i have a testimony to say; I have been married for five years without any child, nor pregnancy and so i became very sad and lost hope in life because my doctor told me there is no way for me to get pregnant and this really make life so hard for me and this made my husband to turn away from me. My sister in-law told me about DR EKPEN from the Internet, how he has helped people with this similar problem that i am going through so i contacted him and explained to him. He told me not to worry and that everything we soon be okay. He cast a spell and it was a miracle, to my greatest surprise three days later my husband came back to apologize for all he has done and told me he is fully ready to support me in any thing i want,few months later i got pregnant and gave birth to twins (girls) we are now a happy family. Thanks to DR EKPEN for saving my relationship and for also helping others too. continue your good work, If you are interested to contact DR EKPEN for your solution now EMAIL him at ( ekpenlovetemple@gmail.com) for any help you want him to do for you. Thank you Great DR. once again and may your gods reward you for your good deeds. ekpenlovetemple@gmail.com

  • Maryann Gabany

    How long did everything take? The paperwork, everything being changed to your new name?

  • Lisa

    I have an idea of why people call you Beth. Beth is normally a nickname or shortened version of Elizabeth. It’s rarely on it’s own, so as middle names are usually not shortened, maybe people accidentally see it as a part of your first name- such as Maryann/Mary Ann or Peggy Sue, Mary Pat… just a thought.
    I’m going to change my name- or probably just my last. I dislike my last name and want to change it for many reasons. I might make my first the long version (It is Lisa, so I might make it Elizabeth and still use Lisa). It was interesting hearing your experiences. The last name is a nearly impossible choice. I want something whimsical, that sounds English, 2-4 syllables and unique. That’s a nearly endless list of choices! So it’s taking me a long time. I only want to change it once…. plus it’s $500 here.

  • Malcolm McKay

    Did your parents leave you out of their ‘will’ for disinheriting their name? I think I would. My daughter has just changed her last name and I’m currently gutted.
    By pure coincidence, my last name is McKay. lol

  • Elizabeth Eyre

    Thank you so much for this blog! I am undergoing changing only my last name to a new one as I am about to be divorced and i never liked my maiden name. At first I tried to discuss it and bounce ideas off friends but most of them don’t understand why it’s so significant for me to be able to choose my own name :-/
    most of them keep telling me to either leave it alone or change it back to my maiden name. the ones who say to keep my married name have said that it’s because i need to keep the same name as my children but i don’t believe in this day and age it’s that important. ah well. again thank you so much for this blog.
    although it has tripped me out a little bit because i swear my old preschool teacher mr mackay had a daughter with your name lol!
    signing off with my soon to be new name!

  • IreOnFire

    My name is Ireland. And i absolutely hate it. Who names someone after a country? I really want to change it, but it just seems weird…

    • http://pennygrace.blogspot.com Penny Grace

      You can change it…what name have you always wanted, that fits your character?

  • honey

    Hello, I’ve already read this before but then i just had the courage to wrote here i dont really like my real name that if someone would call me with that I got irritated in short it was like i was in hell at school.. I think it really affects me
    As wen i grow old and I was on the stage of changing it legally but its a tiring process and if I sit it there all they can change is my name in birth cert. and my other documents i still have to work for it ..so I was thinking that if I’ve already change my birth cert name different name wid my other papers I have to explain it all over that it just torture me to death and just complicate my life more..now I’m losing hope that i can change it and plus I feel guilty when some one ask me or how to explain to my family and relatives

  • Sue

    Thanks for posting this, it’s really nice to know other people out there are considering doing this (or in your case, have already done it!). I’ve lived my entire life LOATHING the sound of my name. I don’t have a clue why, but my skin actually crawls when people say my name. Since I was very young I dreamed of changing my name, but the fear of being criticized for wanting a change like that has kept me from doing it. How can you possible explain “I absolutely hate my name and don’t know why”. No one (even myself!) would understand. I was so happy when I changed my last name when I got married. However, I’m divorced now, so I no longer care for that name, and I never cared for my maiden name, so perhaps its time to simply start from scratch! Sorry to go on and on, but I just now saw this post and had to comment. I hope you are enjoying your life with your new name!

  • britney

    My husband has abandon me and the kids for the the past 8months now, and refuse to come back because he was hold on by a woman whom he just met, for that, my self and the kids has been suffering and it has been heel of a struggle, but I decide to do all means to make sure that my family come together as it use to, then I went online there I saw so many good talk about this spell caster whose email is LAVENDERLOVESPELL@YAHOO.com so I had to contact him and in just 4days as he has promised, my husband came home and his behavior was back to the man I got married to.I cant thank the spell caster enough what what he did for me, I am so grateful. I even spoke to the spell caster over the phone, to confirm his existence. His email again is: LAVENDERLOVESPELL@YAHOO.com

  • Lilly

    I want to change my name but I’m still a minor, my parents said if I change it then they won’t help pay for college. My name is hard to pronounce we live in a southern state so people pronounce it Lilly-Ann instead of lil-e-un and the spelling of my name is awful. Lillyan Alleece blech

    • Rachel Rowe

      OMG I feel for you. Those are weird spellings. Maybe stick it out if they are going to be that petty then change it as soon as you’ve graduated as a graduation present to yourself!!

  • Cindy

    I ordered your break them up and return my lover spell last week and I just wanted to drop you a quick email to let you know it worked! I’m so happy that Marvin and I are back in one another’s lives and Samantha is out of the picture…finally! Your spell work and attention to my situation are both equally amazing. I can’t thank you enough for all your hard efforts. Thanks again: Re_unifyexlove@outlook.com

  • Amber Richardson

    I found your article when I Googled “Why do you hate your name” trying to find the physiology behind it. — I’ve wanted a different name since I can remember. At school when filling out the name section on papers, I always prayed for a different name. It just doesn’t represent or fit who I am. Like you I have no attachment to the name & have an uncommon relationship with my family.

    I’ve dropped my last name from being used. My friends all know me by my first & middle, but I even feel that is not who I am.

    Then after reading the book Freakanomics; I also found out my name is the #1 name for low income/low educated parents. I’ve spent my life thus far trying to overcome & rise above my parents, who held me back & sheltered me my entire life. I’ve since done things that they told me I could never do. I love them as people & wouldn’t be changing my name to prove anything to them, but to again rise above the ashes & take in the life I have created for myself.

    Like Bob Kim mentioned on here, “in the arts you do it (mark twain) changing your name is marking an epoch making metamorphosis.”

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  • Jones Nicole

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  • http://pennygrace.blogspot.com Penny Grace

    I have just recently filled out the paper work for changing my middle name. My parents tried to get fancy and give me a made up French middle name and came up with LeAnne. It’s supposed to be pronounced Ley-ahn but being an American every single time its pronounced Lee-Ann…you know cause it’s spelled that way. I’ve told my parents on many occasion how horrible a name it is.

    I almost never spell out my full middle name on documents unless specified and I cringe every time I hear it “Lee-ANNE”.

    I am going to mail my petition to the court to have it changed to Laila. It’s soft and youthful like me!

  • yogurt

    Your original name was better

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  • Alice

    AM HAPPY MY LOVER IS WITH ME AGAIN, THANKS TO DR ABULU

    hello my name is Alice Tugas from Canada i want you all to join me to thank this man for restoring my relationship with my ex lover who dump me for another girl for 5 months, at first i never believed Dr Abulu will be able to help me win Emerson back from this other girl but because i still love him and need him in my life i work and follow his instruction and it surprise me that after working with he Emerson called me and ask me to forgive and forget the past that he still love me and that was how me and my man came back for good and we are planing our wedding by November so with this great work done for me by DR ABULU of abuluspiritualtemple@gmail.com i promise to always share his good work to the whole wide world and if any body is out there passing through any relationship difficulties should kindly contact him via
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  • Alice

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  • Family Girl

    Sorry to say, but I want to be as honest as I can be . I do not like the name
    you changed to one bit. It does not roll off the tongue like your original name does.
    It seems you were more interested in being “cute” or “witty” than you were in
    whether or not your parents would be hurt by this. This kind of attitude will leave
    a trail of hurt feelings all over the place. Not just that you changed your name, but that
    you want so much to be “different” and “unique” that other peoples feelings don’t matter.
    If you had been abused in some way or your family had been so dysfunctional that
    for your own sanity you needed to change your name and association with them, that
    would be one thing. We have families for a reason. I don’t hang around with all of my
    family all the time but I love them dearly, all of them. Even if I don’t love their personality, I still love them, because they are family. Maybe you need some help to
    understand why you think you are too good for your own family. This is not natural.

    • Rachel Rowe

      What an insulting and ignorant post – particularly the ending. Many cultures thoroughout history have seen people take on a new name when they went through some kind of spiritual change. It is covered in the Bible, native American tradition and modern Europe – the famous German spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle changed his first name aged 29 after deciding to focus on a spiritual rather than an intellectual way of life. It is often nothing to do with family and in her respect I suspect it definitely isn’t; she is just trying to find herself and frankly good luck to her!!

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  • Raychel Wild

    Belle is nice. I do think however that just ‘Beth Cooper’ seems to suit your face particularly well; I would probably call you ‘Beth’ if I were to know you in person as well. I am in the process of changing my surname to ‘Wild’ as my father who gave me the surname Rowe has never wanted me and his father never wanted him either – so he in turn rejected me I guess…for a long time I was sad but now I feel like I am wild and free to be who I want. ”Rowe’ is often mispelled as ‘Roe’ and I am ignored when I protest; maybe I would be willing to keep doing it if a man who loved me had given it to me but my father has no love for me only resentment it seems..,

    Also ‘Wild’ is a traditional name given to people in Britain who were orphans who had no clear patronage or family so I only following tradition! At the same time I am going to change my first name – see my comment 4 months ago titled ‘no idea’.
    God Bless xxx